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Jul 1Liked by janice obudai

Crying over this bc it so deeply resonates. I am a lover girl through and through but I hate being in love because it leaves me so vulnerable and lost in their existence.

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oof yeah i can definitely relate

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Jul 3Liked by janice obudai

I feel like I can only “love” men who are inaccessible because I put them on a pedestal and think so highly of them

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Jul 2Liked by janice obudai

ugh, i relate to this so much. i get crushes once every two years and fall for people… almost never but when i do, oh boy, it’s a lot.

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i’m right there with you…it takes everything out of you

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Jun 30Liked by janice obudai

Great piece. Feeling so deeply for someone and being unsure if they feel the same way MUST feel exhausting absolutely, I’m sure everyone who has felt that way feels as if they’re doing something wrong or questions if they’re partner feels that same intensity.

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honestly, you might want to look into the concept of limerence

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Jul 3Liked by janice obudai

And i worry I will never find love (I’m 20), but I focus on my fulfilling friendships, I have to love someone more than I love my friends or the same level, they’re just that great. so grateful for platonic female love.

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having great friends is so grounding and is a good compass for figuring out what you deserve in relationships!

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Jul 3Liked by janice obudai

I’ve never been in love (does being in love with Paul mescal count lol)

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So relatable 🥹 there is beauty and pain in falling in love with someone deeply!!

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Honestly same ! For a while I was stressed out about dying alone, but I've sort of started channelling love inwards I guess?! lol , anyway.. You should check out Thie piece by Henrik Karlson, shifted my whole world. Let me link it here...https://www.henrikkarlsson.xyz/p/looking-for-alice

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love this, thank you!!

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